By Michelle Hastie

Continued from part 1 of this article…..

Three: Your Relationship with Weight:

How would you describe your relationship with your body, as a loving BFF or the worst kind of enemy you can have? My body is my BFF, my companion. If it were a person she would totally support me and allow me to do whatever I want, whenever I want. She would be strong and flexible, flowing through each and every day. I show up as BFF to my body as well. I always listen to her and say loving things when she feels down. I tell her how much I love and appreciate her. I accept her as she is today without asking her to change. Can you imagine how my body would react if I was constantly putting her down? Or ignoring her? What if I beat her up everyday and told her she was not ok? It’s time to let go of losing weight and turn your attention to how you relate to your body.

Start by checking out my healing ebooks to learn how to have a healthy relationship with food, exercise and your body and then begin transforming how you relate to each of them. It’s time to begin an intimate, loving friendship with each of them. Let go of losing weight, or changing how you eat or exercise, it’s irrelevant. Your relationship to each of these is what the universe is asking you to heal.

Four: Getting Down to the WHY Of It All:

Once you start healthy relationships with these areas, take inventory of why you want to lose weight. What do you want to get from it? Do you want more ease and strength? More confidence and personal power? The ability to wear different clothes? Having your ideal body is only part of the equation and the truth is you only perceive it to be part of the equation. It may or may not be involved with the end result. But the only way to find out is to let go of the how and when and simply focus on what you really want.

For example, 2 years ago I really wanted to take NLP. All 3 levels of NLP cost around $10,000 and I didn’t even have $50 in my bank account and a mound of debt. I didn’t beat myself up, I just stated in my mind that it was something that I really wanted and then I let it go. I had a free ticket to attend an event taught by an NLP teacher and went ahead and registered for it, excited for the opportunity to grow. A couple days later I logged on to Facebook and saw that I was tagged in a video. Turns out everyone that registered for a ticket (free or paid) was entered in a drawing and he was giving away stuff each day. And one day he was giving out all 3 levels of NLP for free. Guess whose name came out of the hat? That’s right, me. Notice that I didn’t focus on the $10,000 it would take to get NLP, I simply focused on what I really wanted. I didn’t care how I got it. I also didn’t attach myself to it. I truly let it go and said this is something I want and I don’t know how to make it happen. And so it was delivered.

Let go of losing weight and get clear about what you want from weight loss specifically.

Five: Uncover Hidden Fears Buried Deep in Your Subconscious:

The last thing you want to do is look at all the things you wrote that you want. A smaller size, more confidence, etc. Then write out what will happen if you got it. We are looking to see if there are any hidden fears inside of these wants.

An example of this could be, “I want to be a smaller size. If I was a smaller size I would get a lot more male attention which I don’t want”. Now you see that even though you want to be a smaller size you have a conflict buried in your subconscious. So it won’t happen. Begin uncovering any and all fears behind actually getting what you want and expose the truth.

– Michelle Hastie, President/Founder, As Seen In Shape Magazine, Total Body Health Solutions