Toni Carter – If I Knew Then What I Know Now

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Life Lessons From Adults To Children
Today’s Guest – Toni Carter

Young People – be honest and share what is in your hearts with your parents. As antiquated, as they may seem they’ve been where you are now; and they want to do what is right for you. Since no one person knows it all, if you believe they’re not fully understanding you, respectfully tell them so. But don’t let your discussions descend into bickering, since progress is not made in such a place. If you want them to understand your position, be ready to truthfully explain what you need, mean and intend. If you are not truthful, no one can effectively help you. Even if you eventually get what you want by deception, you’ll undermine your relationship with them, and damage the trust they have in you. Not a good combination and can take years to rebuild your relationship with them. I learned my lesson by ruining many relationships. Sometimes I didn’t tell the truth because I was scared of the consequences (my mother was an abuser). However, lying usually made things worst. I would have asked for help from other family members who cared about me. I’d raised my two adults children to tell always tell me the truth, because I will help them even if they’ve done something wrong, but I need to know the truth.

I wish someone would have shared this with me. It could have saved me from a lot of hard times, and spending years trying to rebuild relationships.

– Toni Carter, HR Consultant, Chief Inspirational Strategist, Author