Fear Is A Happiness Compass – 9 Ways to Break Out Of Fear And Handle Crisis – Part 2

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By Diane Lang

Continued from part 1 of the article…..

news3. This goes back to the old saying you can’t succeed until you have failed. You need to take risks to be successful and happy. Even if we make a mistake or fail, we learn from it so it’s never a bad move. We also get a feeling of accomplishment from trying. We start appreciating our effort as much as winning or losing. So take a risk, make a mistake; it’s a win-win situation.

4. By being vulnerable and taking risks we realize we really can’t control everything. It brings us back to reality. If we have controlling and perfection traits, we will always feel stressed out and fearful but when we realize we don’t have control over anything but ourselves and our reactions we can start to focus on what’s really in our power and start seeing results.

5. When we are fearful it is a wake up call to pause and reevaluate what’s going on. To make new choices. We can become curious about new opportunities or ways of doing things. We can look at things from a new perspective Instead of remaining in fear we can look at it as an opportunity to try something new.

6. If we truly accept fear we don’t have to mask it with food, drugs, shopping, etc. If we accept our fear we don’t have to be so angry. Fear causes anger as a defense mechanism from being vulnerable. When we are hurt or scared we become angry; it’s easier then dealing with the vulnerability.

yogapose7. When you become aware your being fearful then you can do a few things to calm your fear before it turns into anger. What self soothes you – music, exercise, nature, warm bath, etc? Use Meditation Breathing techniques to relax the physical symptoms. Self talk – I talk back to my fear by asking myself questions: What am I truly fearful of? Is it really that scary or am I making it worse/exaggerating my fear? What would happen if I felt the fear but did it anyway? What would happen if I let fear control my actions and didn’t do anything? Would I regret that decision?

8. Realize that our biggest fear is death. This again is something we can’t control and to worry about; it is a waste of time. I have learned to change my perspective on death. I have a spiritual perspective and believe that our physical body dies but our soul continues on. This perspective has changed my view/fear of death. Know there is something bigger then us. Find your spiritual side. Having a sense of spirituality let’s us know that there is something bigger than us and that has a comforting and peaceful effect on us.

9. Know how your body reacts to fear and stress. Do you get headaches, stomachaches, neck pain, TMJ, etc. When we can sense the physical symptoms we can use that as a red flag- a warning to stop and ask the important question: What am I afraid of?

Diane Lang is a Positive Living Expert and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized speaker, author, educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct professor at Montclair State University.