Changing Your View On “Fear”

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By Diane Lang

womancouchOur biggest fear is a huge crisis where everything changes and we feel out of control. The good news: A huge crisis is just the kick in the butt we need to accept change. So, lets look at fear from a different perspective. Lets look at fear as a good thing. The next time a crisis, a negative event or situation hits instead of getting nervous, scared and upset lets change our point of view and look at it differently. Here are a few tips to help you accept change and release fear:

When the negative event, crisis or situation happens stop for a second and ask yourself:

1. Why did this happen- what wasn’t I listening to? paying attention to?

2. What needs aren’t being met?

3. What changes do I need to make?

4. What did I learn from this?

Then “Thank your fear” for leading you in the right direction. Fear and change stops us in our tracks and makes us look at life differently. It forces us to see what isn’t going right. It forces us to make changes when we don’t want to.

If you want more proof. Look back at every crisis you have had and how it was only temporary and it eventually led you down a better path.


The loss of a job that brought you a better job or gave you the motivation to change career paths or start your own business.

The divorce that ended up putting you with your soul mate.

The illness that made you stop in your tracks and ended up teaching you to slow down, enjoy life and have better relationships.

During your next crisis, negative event or situation pay really close attention. These are all wake up calls. So, next time ask yourself:

1. What is truly going on?

2. What do I really want?

3. What lesson did I miss?

Then slow down to hear the message. Its always there we just get wrapped up on moving through the fear as fast as possible that we don’t wait long enough to hear the answer.
If you don’t pay attention now, there will be another crisis right around the corner.
The choice is yours. I choose to look at fear as a blessing!

Challenge – how can you release fear today?

Diane Lang – Positive Living Expert and psychotherapist – is a nationally recognized speaker, happinesss author, educator, therapist and media expert. Lang is extremely mediagenic and offers expertise on a variety of health and wellness topics about creating balance and finding happiness through positive living as well as multiple mental health, lifestyle and parenting needs. In addition to holding multiple counseling positions, Diane is also an adjunct professor at Montclair State University.