5 Habits Of Those Who Are Truly Happy

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By Janet Miller

womantwistingHappiness. Everyone wants it, everyone is seeking it, but few actually have it. Is our quest for success, money, and accomplishment actually limiting our happiness? Having met with many entrepreneurs and C-level executives around the world in my previous job, I took a few notes along the way. Here are the 5 habits I found that distinguish those who are truly happy:

1. They accept their calling. Not everyone knows what their calling is in life. Equally, however, many people might find what they think is their calling, and abandon it out of fear. Instead of shying away from what you’re good at, because you’re afraid of the hard work, notoriety, or anything else associated with it, actively pursue this calling. If you find your purpose, or have a hunch you have, seek it, and don’t look back. Focusing on your true strengths, and what you believe your purpose is, will help unlock true happiness.

2. They don’t chase money. Contrary to what some supremely successful people may portray, money does not bring happiness. Beyond a certain amount, the amount required to live comfortably and indulge occasionally, more money does not necessarily bring more happiness. In fact, a single-minded quest to pursue money might block out friendships, family, leisure, health, and other things that are critical to long-term happiness. There will always be someone richer, and more money to make. Those who are truly happy stop worrying about money.

3. They sleep. There are those people for whom sleep is a waste of time and work is their only source of achievement and happiness. For most others, however, sleep is important. Everyone knows how a good night of sleep feels. Sleep is a trade off in time with work, relationships etc., but often it is one worth making. Many of the truly happy people I have met are very generous with the sleep time they give themselves.

happyteens4. They laugh. Laughter is often the sign of good relationships between friends, family, coworkers, and even strangers. Laughter releases chemicals in the brain that make you feel momentarily happy. Have enough of those moments, and you have got a pretty good base of happiness. One morning routine that some people use very effectively is to look at themselves in the mirror for 5 minutes and to simply smile from ear to ear. This sets a positive tone for the rest of the day.

5. They give. Giving is related to caring and charity, but is itself something different and worth focusing on. There are plenty of worthy and righteous reasons to give, say, to charity. One of the lesser-mentioned reasons is that giving makes the giver feel good. The notion of “the gift” is complex, and sometimes tied up in a weird “who owes who” psychology. However, if you can avoid this, there are lots of benefits from giving. Giving to friends, family, and charity, all have their virtues. It feels good to help someone in need, and it is a reminder of your own good fortune. You cannot control whether or not you receive help in a time of need, but you can control when you help others.

– Janet Miller is a certified yoga instructor, nutritionist and seasoned work at home mom of four. She worked for more than 10 years at a Fortune 100 corporation before deciding to work at home full time. You can reach her at her blog.

What Truly Matters

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By Diane Lang

girlhatThis article is to make sure you add what really matters into your daily life.

What matters

1. Connection – we need others. No matter what anyone says we can’t be happy alone,we need to have connection. The quantity of people is up to you but for happiness purposes you need to have people you connect with and feel a sense of belonging. The number one factor for happiness is socialization.

2. Religion/Spirituality matter – as I pursued my academic career in psychology, there wasn’t much talk about either but when I became a student of positive psychology I learned how important it was to have a sense of a higher power, to know there is something bigger out there. It doesn’t matter if you find it in religion or spirituality just finding it is important. The other part is through religion/spirituality you find connection and community.

3. You can’t feel happiness without being vulnerable. If your not open to the possibilities, the chance of being hurt, Then your not fully available to feel happiness.

4. The roller coaster ride of happiness – so if we know we have to be vulnerable to find true happiness then we also know that happiness isn’t a smooth ride. It will have its ups and downs. Everything is temporary. So, if its good time enjoy it, if its a bad time learn from it.

5. If we hold in our emotions, not let people know our true self we end up in a vicious cycle. The more we hide, the more the negativity keeps rearing its ugly head. You can’t move forward till you come face to face with your emotions, fear and your authentic self.

6. If you don’t believe in yourself you will always be searching for love and acceptance. It will be a never ending search that will include pain and suffering. You must find self-love before anything else.

To do this, we must be self compassionate, kind and patient to ourselves.

7. I realized I spent a majority of my life being someone else. I was a person who deep down inside was afraid of her own shadow. A person who never reveled how she felt due to fear of rejection.All this got me was pain, suffering and more fear. To have satisfying relationships you must be you, the authentic you, the imperfect you, the silly and goofy you, the whole package. There is no half fasts, and’s, if’s or buts on this one. Your either fully in or not. When you let the true you shine and let go of the false self, your shoulders will relax, the brick will be lifted from your chest and life will flow more smoothly. It is an easier ride to be you.

8. Stepping outside your comfort zone will cause you to be vulnerable. Start small. Take these vulnerable steps towards an authentic life. Small steps of courage are all that is needed. Open up a little more, share a little bit of you, give a compliment to a stranger, try something new, be honest, start somewhere.

Being vulnerable, stepping outside your comfort zone and being the true you is all an investment in your overall life satisfaction. It is an investment in your happiness, When you invest in yourself everyone around you reaps the benefits. It is important to realize self-care is an investment in you and many others. Your happiness/moods are contagious When your happy others around you feel warm, happy and comfortable.

– For more information please visit Diane’s website: www.dlcounseling.com or email Diane: Lifeline36@aol.com

Two-Racket Tennis: The Truly Balanced Workout

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By Don R. Mueller, Ph.D. aka “Professor Tennis and the Two-racket Guy”

TworacketTwo-Racket Tennis, unlike its one-racket counterpart, is truly a full-body workout as both sides of the body are utilized in a balanced way to play the game. (The two-racket game is a complete form of tennis along with the two-racket serve. The game follows the same rules as that for one-racket tennis.) Two-racket play encourages the development of bilateral coordination, strength and power, which lends itself to numerous sports: soccer, hockey, basketball and baseball to name just a few. In the new era of Cross-training, such athletes can benefit by including Two-racket Tennis into their training repertoire.

Two-racket tennis can be played by anyone willing to give it a try. Kids particularly like the two-forehand appeal of the game, because they generally have trouble in quickly mastering the backhand. Senior players find two-racket tennis to be a novel way to alleviate arm strain by employing the two-arm strategy. For the garden-variety tennis enthusiast, two-racket tennis affords the player a number of practical benefits over that of conventional tennis:

(1) Hitting with power from both sides.

(2) Bigger wingspan: more easily reach those difficult shots.

(3) Avoid backhand injuries.

(4) Hand-eye coordination for both sides of the body.

(5) Less back strain.

(6) Less arm fatigue.

(7) Greater flexibility.

The Two-racket Serve: People ask, “Professor, how can you possibly serve using two rackets?” Fortunately the answer is simply and straightforward. The tennis ball rests in the throat of the racket held by the non-serving arm and is then tossed upward in the same way that a one-racket player tosses the ball with his or her non-serving hand. It’s really quite simple once you get the hang of it.

Two-racket tennis can also help improve the performance of the one-racket player.

Two-racket tennis can also help improve the performance of the one-racket player. To give you a concrete example, let’s examine the traditional two-hand backhand: The two-hand backhand is really just a choked up forehand (with the “racket hand” placed near the bottom portion of the racket handle) as you would find in the swinging of a baseball bat. Practicing two-racket tennis builds forearm strength, which in turn, adds power to the two-hand backhand stroke. Try it out and you will see.

For more information about the Two-racket game, feel free to check out the following link:

Two-racket website: www.tworacket.com