5 Forms Of Addictive Stress And How To Let Them Go – Part 2

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By Judith Orloff, MD

Continued from part 1 of this article…..

womanLet go of physical stress.In the APA survey, 30 percent of adults report that their stress level has a strong or very strong impact on their physical health. Stress makes us feel lousy. We become tight, tense, obsessive, and burned out by adrenaline and cortisol. Consequently, we become malnourished or overweight. We don’t exercise, and the quality of our sleep suffers. One of the best ways to let go of physical stress is to let your body do what it was designed to do: move. Practice some kind of movement you like at least a few times a week, whether it’s going to the gym, walking your dog, or doing yoga stretches. The goal of movement is to get out of your head and surrender to the bliss of the body’s sacred energy. Let movement give you a reason to love your body.

Let go of time-related stress.
We are immersed in a culture of rushing. Nature offers great lessons about letting things happen at their own pace, and surrendering to the flow. When you experience worry, fear, or anxiety about an upcoming event or work deadline, look up at the sky and focus on a cloud. Watch it drift, and see what the shape reveals. This is a calming exercise that helps a rushing mind slow down and gain perspective. If it’s breezy outside, go outside and let the air rush through and around you. Imagine the wind clearing out your mind. Water is another of nature’s stress busters. When you’re stressed, mindfully drink a glass of water, and take a bath or shower to cleanse negativity around deadlines from your system.

Let go of illness-related stress.
When we’re sick and don’t feel well, we often become depressed and overwhelmed. If you can tune in to your intuition, it will help you get out of your state of inertia. Start by noticing your beliefs. Shift negative beliefs (I will never heal) to positive ones (I trust my body’s healing powers). Listen to your body–and if a treatment or a doctor’s approach feels “off,” allow yourself to question it. Sleep when you need to. Stay away from people and settings that make you feel depleted instead of energized. Listen to your dreams to see what they tell you about your health.

– Judith Orloff MD is author of The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life (April 1, 2014) upon which this article is based. An assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and NY Times bestselling author, Dr. Orloff teaches workshops nationwide, has given a TED talk on this book, and has appeared on The Dr. Oz Show, Today, PBS, CNN, NPR, and many others. More information at drjudithorloff.com.

5 Forms Of Addictive Stress And How To Let Them Go – Part 1

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By Judith Orloff, MD

stressedwomanAmericans are addicted to ever-increasing levels of stress, according to the most recent APA “Stress in America” survey (here’s the link).

More than 4 out of 10 adults (42 percent) report that their stress levels have increased over the past 5 years. Nearly 4 out of 10 (36 percent) say stress affects their overall happiness a great deal, and about the same number (37 percent) have felt overwhelmed in the past month by stress.

But here’s what’s so fascinating. About half of adults (48 percent) report “being unable to control the important things in their life very or fairly often.” No wonder they’re stressed! Trying to control the outcome is what causes stress, not relieves it!

The key to relieving all different types of stress lies in letting go of control. Surrendering control, not pushing, not rushing, and not trying to create a desired outcome helps us get in the flow, relax, and be flexible. When we learn how to do this, everything gets easier, from how we deal with our finances, to how we get along with our love partners.

In my book, The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life, I look at some common forms of stress we’re addicted to, and how we can let them go.

Let go of “success stress.”
In the APA survey, money (71 percent), work (69 percent), and the economy (59 percent) are the most commonly reported sources of stress. To let go of success stress, stop comparing yourself to others, and focus instead on what you’re grateful for. This will help you get your mind off what you lack. If you find yourself envying someone’s success, ask yourself what you admire and can learn from them. Finally, wish them well. These simple strategies will help you change the way you think of success, and will free you up to change some of your behaviors around money and work.

Let go of relationship stress.
Nearly half (46 percent) of adults in the survey say they lost patience or yelled at their spouse, partner, or children when stressed in the last month. You can let go of relationship stress by practicing staying calm, no matter what buttons your loved one has pushed. Avoid reacting or getting defensive. Let the other person completely finish talking, then pause, before you respond. Instead of trying to change their mind, accept where they’re coming from and try to be compassionate. When we stop trying to control relationships, they become less stressful.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this article shortly…..

– Judith Orloff MD is author of The Ecstasy of Surrender: 12 Surprising Ways Letting Go Can Empower Your Life (April 1, 2014) upon which this article is based. An assistant clinical professor of psychiatry at UCLA and NY Times bestselling author, Dr. Orloff teaches workshops nationwide, has given a TED talk on this book, and has appeared on The Dr. Oz Show, Today, PBS, CNN, NPR, and many others. More information at drjudithorloff.com.

Go Home You’re Too Fat

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By Kac Young PhD, ND, DCH

obesityArt Caplan, from the Division of Medical Ethics at NYU, posted a story about a couple in New Zealand. A chef and his wife had emigrated to New Zealand 7 years ago from South Africa. The chef, when he arrived in New Zealand, was 5’6″ and weighed about 360 pounds. His wife was not obese. After about 6 years, they applied for a renewal of their right to stay and work and run their restaurant in New Zealand, but they were told that they had to leave. He was too fat.

The government’s position was that the chef was going to become a burden on their healthcare system. He and his wife, who isn’t fat, had to leave. They had lived in New Zealand for 7 years and no one had warned him. And, despite the fact that he had lost 50 pounds, the New Zealand government still said, “We are deporting you because you’re fat.”

New Zealand is a health-conscious country. Popular leisure activities include beach swimming, fishing, skiing, and hiking. Most New Zealanders take pride in their healthy, active way of life. In recent years New Zealanders have become more conscious of the need to moderate their sun exposure and high-fat diets. Restaurants now offer more varied and health-conscious cuisine. (1)

Like it or not, this is the wave of the future and many feelings will be hurt, many outraged and yet we can prevent embarrassment and rejection if we begin today.

We’ve all heard the phase “take responsibility for yourself,” and nowhere is this more critical than in health issues. If you are overweight get on a program that will help you manage your weight. You don’t have to set yourself up for unnecessary emotional distress.

I created Heart Easy a plan and program of recipes and healthy eating to ensure your longevity and cardio health. It begins with changing what you eat, reducing sodium, saturated fats and sugars, exercising and stopping smoking or excessive drinking. Not only does this plan help your heart, but it also helps prevent cancer, supports weight loss and stimulates overall health and well-being.

saladplateIf you want to become a healthier person, then use my experience as a former cardio patient and do what I did: Take hold of your health and your weight by declaring your resolve to shed the pounds and get healthier beginning today.

You’ll really see that can be easy, delicious and enjoyable and you’ll start feeling more energetic, happier and healthier right away.

(1) http://www.countriesquest.com/oceania/new_zealand/people_and_society/way_of_life.htm

Kac Young, a former television director and producer, has earned a Ph.D. in Natural Health and is a Doctor of both Clinical Hypnotherapy and Naturopathy. She is the author of 10 books. Heart Easy is a system of nutritionally sound, delicious meals that promote heart health, long life and taste great. Traditional recipes are turned into heart healthy meals that anyone can make. The health results are outstanding.