The Importance Of Feeling Safe – Part 2

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By Bob Livingstone

Continued from part 1 of this article…..

familywalkSteps to Feeling Safe:

• The very first step is to recognize that safety does indeed exist and that you are deserving of it.

• Think about the moments when you have felt safe and write about them. When you are feeling frightened, turn to your journal and focus on it. For example, if you remember feeling relaxed and warm laying on the beach, bring up a memory of that and allow it to flow into your fears.

• Be aware that we all have different parts of us inside. Some parts may be identified as children, punitive adults, loving women, caring men and those that carry wisdom. These parts become fragmented and don’t connect when you are not feeling safe. When you are feeling scared, look inside and find which part is being triggered. Once you find your place of wisdom and caring parts; have them communicate reassuring, loving messages.

• It is important to get enough sleep, eat well, exercise regularly and hang out with those who really have your best interest at heart.

• Terminate relationships with those who belittle you and are not trustworthy.

• Discover what unconditional love really means and apply it to yourself-accepting that you are not perfect and that is OK.

• Seek out psychotherapy to help face, work through and heal from not feeling safe. EMDR(Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and Sandtray Therapy are two modalities that can help you learn to feel safe.

Bob Livingstone is the author the critically acclaimed Unchain the Pain: How to be Your Own Therapist, Norlights Press 2011, The Body Mind Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise, Pegasus Books, 2007 and Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager’s Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy, Booklocker 2002. He is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker in private practice in The San Francisco Bay Area and has nearly twenty five years experience working with adults, adolescents and children.

The Importance Of Feeling Safe – Part 1

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By Bob Livingstone

womanMany of us have that anxious feeling running through our bodies on a regular basis. That feeling comes in a variety of states; from intense five alarm bells loudly ringing to fear running in the background of our thoughts. When this happens, folks can withdraw socially, rely on substances or get caught up in drama to escape this feeling of impending doom.

We walk through life fearful of looking at what causes this overwhelming worry. We believe that we are just anxious because one or both of our parents is a worrier. We accept as true that we are in fear because we have been traumatized at one or more points in our lives. We think there is no relief for this state, so we do our best to grind it out and survive. We also have the mindset that actually facing this agony will create more pain making it more difficult to survive.

In reality, we don’t feel safe much of the time and that lack of safety is the major trigger for all the fear that washes through us. Many of us have no real concept of what being safe means.

Many of us have not received reassurance from our parents that no matter how horrible your life was going, you would eventually not just be ok, but thrive. That sense of hope and faith was never instilled.

When I look at how lovingly my friends/neighbors look at their children as they hold them, I realize that my parents never gazed into my eyes in such a passionate way. I imagine feeling loved that fiercely provides a child with warmth, self-confidence and security.

Feeling wanted leads to feeling safe. Being safe is the absence of beating yourself up or feeling that all that is good in your life is a moment away from vanishing forever.

Feeling safe is not having that soon to be falling off a cliff feeling and not worried about being criticized by those surrounding you.

Feeling safe is not having that soon to be falling off a cliff feeling and not worried about being criticized by those surrounding you. It is the ability to find the safe space inside yourself that was pushed away when you were a child. That safe space is naturally there when we are born, but we learn to lose our path to this place through the abuse and neglect of adults who are supposed to care for us.

Feeling safe means being self-assured and ditching the self-doubt. It means waking up in the morning and deeply knowing that you deserve to live in a safe space and have the happiness that it brings.

Feeling safe is the ultimate goal of psychotherapy or any other means of self-exploration.

Stay tuned for part 2 of this article…..

Bob Livingstone is the author the critically acclaimed Unchain the Pain: How to be Your Own Therapist, Norlights Press 2011, The Body Mind Soul Solution: Healing Emotional Pain through Exercise, Pegasus Books, 2007 and Redemption of the Shattered: A Teenager’s Healing Journey through Sandtray Therapy, Booklocker 2002. He is a psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker in private practice in The San Francisco Bay Area and has nearly twenty five years experience working with adults, adolescents and children.

Obesity Pill That Re-Wires Brain Into Feeling Full

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overweightmanFrom Your Health Journal…..”An interesting article from the Times of India entitled Soon, obesity pill that re-wires brain into feeling full. Scientists have gotten closer to developing a diet pill that can prevent obesity by “re-wiring” appetite control in the brain. A recent study has identified a population of stem cells capable of generating new appetite-regulating neurons in the brains of young and adult rodents. Scientists investigated the hypothalamus section of the brain – which regulates sleep and wake cycles, energy expenditure, appetite, thirst, hormone release and many other critical biological functions. The study looked specifically at the nerve cells that regulate appetite. This entire investigation could lead to many positive results in people who have a hard time reducing their calorie intake. In a day and age where obesity is causing people to become ill, and the worries about the rise in the cost of healthcare, this could lead to something positive. Let’s watch this closely to see how it turns out, and if it is entirely safe for humans. Please visit the Times of India web site (link provided below) to read the complete article. The Times of India is an excellent publication with many quality health articles.”

From the article…..

No more toiling hard in the gym to shed flab!

Scientists have inched closer to developing a new diet pill that can prevent obesity by “re-wiring” appetite control in the brain.

A new study, published in the Journal of Neuroscience, has identified a population of stem cells capable of generating new appetite-regulating neurons in the brains of young and adult rodents.

The discovery by researchers at the University of East Anglia (UEA) could offer a long-lasting solution to eating disorders such as obesity.

Scientists investigated the hypothalamus section of the brain – which regulates sleep and wake cycles, energy expenditure, appetite, thirst, hormone release and many other critical biological functions. The study looked specifically at the nerve cells that regulate appetite.

The researchers used ‘genetic fate mapping’ techniques to make their discovery – a method that tracks the development of stem cells and cells derived from them, at desired time points during the life of an animal.

They established that a population of brain cells called ‘tanycytes’ behave like stem cells and add new neurons to the appetite-regulating circuitry of the mouse brain after birth and into adulthood.

“Unlike dieting, translation of this discovery could eventually offer a permanent solution for tackling obesity,” lead researcher Dr Mohammad K Hajihosseini, said.

To read the complete article…..Click here

Not Feeling Well? The Answer May Lie In Your Teeth

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toothWhen you visit the dentist, they usually ask you a number of questions about your general health history and the medications you take. It might be puzzling because we often think of our oral health as something separate from our general health. But, as numerous studies and medical research has shown, the two are not separate. Problems with your dental health are often an indicator of a problem somewhere else in the body.

How does the mouth affect the rest of the body? The mouth is full of mostly harmless bacteria. This is completely normal. The body’s natural defenses, along with good oral hygiene such as regular brushing and flossing keep that bacteria at bay. However, sometimes harmful bacteria can grow and multiply, causing problems like tooth decay, gingivitis, and periodontitis. And some dental procedures can reduce the flow of saliva, which helps wash out a lot of the bacteria and acids you consume when you eat. When these things happen, they disrupt the normal balance of bacteria in your mouth and breach your mouth’s protective barriers, making it easier for bacteria to enter the bloodstream, which in turn causes other illnesses.

The American Dental Association explains that “the bacteria and inflammation linked to periodontitis play a role in some systemic diseases or conditions.” Inflammation of the soft tissues of the mouth is a defining characteristic of gum disease, and that inflammation may increase or contribute to inflammation in other parts of the body too. And inflammation is also a hallmark of diseases like endocarditis (an inflammation of the heart’s inner lining), cardiovascular disease, and rheumatoid arthritis. In fact, scientists have also found links between periodontitis and diabetes, dementia, auto immune disorders like Srojen’s syndrome, premature birth, and low birth weight. Also, some diseases, like diabetes, blood cell disorders, HIV, and AIDS, which lower the body’s immune system and resistance to infection, increase the likelihood of gum disease. This is yet another reason for you to brush and floss your teeth regularly and keep your mouth nice and healthy.

toothbrushpasteScientists have also discovered that problems with your oral health can be indictors of a larger problem within the body. If the teeth suddenly begin to crack or disintegrate, or they become almost clear, then you may be suffering from gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD). These symptoms can also be an indicator of bulimia because the stomach acid produced by frequent vomiting begins to wear away tooth enamel. In older adults, tooth loss is often the first sign of osteoporosis.

Always keep an eye out for the signs of oral diseases:

• Red or swollen gums that bleed easily
• Chronically bad breath
• Loose teeth
• A change in the way your teeth fit together when you bite
• A change in the way your dentures fit

If you notice any of the following symptoms, please contact your dentist quickly.

To sum it all up, good oral health is not just good for your mouth. Living a healthy life, being active and eating right, and maintaining good dental hygiene is the best way to keep your entire body, mouth and all, in perfect health.

– Dr. Mark Marchbanks has been a dentist in Arlington Texas since 1983. He enjoys caring for patients young and old. If it’s been more than 6 months since your last teeth cleaning, give us a call today to schedule your check-up.