The Unexpected Happiness You’ll Discover From Good Parenting

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mombabyBeing a parent takes a lot of grit and patience. Each day will present a new challenge whether you’re just now becoming a first-time parent and learning the basics of caring for a newborn or handling those in-between years when your child is rebellious and seeking their individuality. Your children will test you to your limits.

One of the things that have stuck with me is the idea that we’re all just “making it up as we go”. We can read countless articles on parenting. We can take classes. We can seek help from professionals. But in the end we are all learning as we go. However, it’s worth the effort. It’s worth taking in as much advice as you can and trying different techniques when raising a child because what worked for your parents may be completely different for you.

At the end of the day, if you did a good job at parenting, it’ll show. Sometimes it may not be readily apparent that your child appreciates the little things you do (or some of the sacrifices you had to make) but as they age things come around.

It’s the little actions you can do that can lead to a rewarding life for your child (and for you):

• Teaching them the fundamentals of finances so they’re not troubled with it later in life

• Distilling the importance of higher education to create greater opportunities

• Conveying the need for empathy and acceptance to give them a good spirit

It’s hard to say what a “good parent” is by definition. Instead, I believe it’s seen through their actions. And this is especially so when you see how the child develops. How they appreciate their family. How they make their mark on the World.

Sometimes it’s the little things they do that brings you happiness:

• Perhaps they’ve moved out of the nest to attend college. There you are, back in Portland or some other city, and around comes Mother’s Day. You expect a call but instead you get a knock at the door and its flowers. In their minds they said “show your love” on this special day and something as simple as flowers really nailed it. It’s a little gesture but it’s bound to bring a warm smile to your face even when they are afar.

university• Perhaps it’s when they graduate from their college or finally made it in their craft or business. You gave them the motivation to pursue something of difficult and they ran with it. They’re carving out their own niche in the World. It’s a wonderful thing to see your child succeed. It’s also great knowing they will be well off for when they plan to start a family of their own.

• Perhaps it’s an appreciation of time spent together and so they do it frequently. They may have shown some rebellion and wanted to be away but as they’ve aged they’ve come to realize the importance of spending time with you. They’re calling you often. They’re swinging by unexpectedly. They’re making plans to visit for the holidays. Now they’re mature. This starts a whole new level of relationship with your children and it’s quite amazing if you raised them well because with them they’ll bring lots of great stories, insights, and ideals whenever you sit down, reminisce, and talk about the future.

Like it was mentioned – it does feel like everyone is just kind of playing it as it goes. But the great thing about being flexible in your parenting is that you can raise your child rather than trying to mold them into someone they’re not. Give them respect, appreciation, love, and personal space and they’ll come back with more love than you can imagine. This is the real unexpected happiness you’ll find from good parenting. It may take some years to show … but it’s worth it in the end.

Discover How Arts Classes Can Change Your Kid!

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By Anne Fletcher

happychildrenEnrolling a child in arts classes can be an event that changes the life of your child forever. From helping your child discover his or her lifelong passion in dance to helping him or her achieve better grades in school, there are extensive benefits in enrolling a child in arts classes.

Dance classes give a child an outlet for their creative expression. Through dance classes, children are also able to develop a better self-esteem. It is important for children to develop a sense of self-confidence early in life, because this confidence will stay with them throughout the difficult years of adolescence and early adulthood. By enrolling your child in dance classes or summer dance camp at Encore Studio, you can prepare your child for a life of success.

Arts classes also help children to develop better hand-eye coordination. Having better hand-eye coordination will improve the overall agility and athleticism of your child. It has also been proven to improve the reaction time in humans. These skills can be highly useful for a child in entering gym classes at school and pursuing other athletic endeavors.

In taking dance classes at a summer dance camp, a child will learn how to develop a sense of discipline and focus. However, he or she will also be able to nourish creative talents and be allowed the freedom of expression to nourish his or her soul. Learning dance classes allows children to take an active role in the learning process.

groupkidsDuring a summer dance camp, a child may also develop valuable friendships that stay with him or her for the rest of one’s lifetime. A child may even end up pursuing dance as a serious hobby and find that classmates are even on his or her dance team at school or in a studio. For parents who want to encourage an appreciation of dance in their children, enrolling them in a summer dance camp is an excellent choice.

Summer dance camp classes will help your child to become the best dancer that he or she can be. They will also give a child the chance to enjoy self-expression on the stage.

– Anne Fletcher is a professional ballet dancer. She spends more time with her family, she loves being outdoors, playing sports, and sharing her experiences with others. Enroll your kids in Summer Dance Camp Chesterfield VA . Offers children the fun and excitement of learning new dance skills, improving dance techniques, making new friends and helps keep them in good physical condition as well.

Discover How To Live A Happier, Healthier Life

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By Dr. Robert Emmons

stressEngulfed by a popular culture saturated with money-driven, stressed out, overweight and depressed men and women, gratitude is seen less and less. However, gratefulness is an important thing to remember to practice because it not only helps us feel good, but inspires us to do good.

Imagine if you could lose weight, become able to forgive easier, and boost your self-esteem just by being happy. Based on my years of research, I have discovered that people can do all these things just by saying “thank you.”

Gratefulness has valuable long-term benefits. It is linked to higher income, a longer life span, more satisfying relationships, less anxiety and higher grades in school. Gratitude takes us outside our comfort zone so we can see ourselves as part of a larger, complicated system full of reciprocal sustaining relationships.
The strong sense of entitlement found among our generations and the fact that it is easier to “like” something on Facebook than show genuine gratefulness both contribute to America being the most depressed country in the world. However, by practicing the virtue of gratitude, we can change that statistic.
While mental discipline is mandatory because gratitude is not an easy virtue to accomplish, the outcome is worth the effort because gratitude heals, energizes and transforms lives in countless ways.

Gratitude is a way of defining life circumstances. It maximizes happiness in multiple ways and one reason why it works is that it helps us reframe memories of unpleasant events in such a way that it decreases their negative emotional impact. It’s hard to feel grateful after a traumatic accident, but it can enable a faster and healthier healing process.

WriterThere are tools, such as journaling, reflective thinking and letter writing that help you practice gratitude and eventually train your mind and body to live a grateful lifestyle. Journaling may seem like a time-consuming task, but people who keep gratitude journals are 25 percent happier, sleep one-half hour more per evening and exercise up to 33 percent more each week compared to those who don’t keep journals.

Gratitude impacts every aspect of life, including spending. Have you ever gone to dinner and really appreciated your waiter’s hard work? Restaurant bills on which the server writes “thank you” produce tips that are as much as 11 percent higher than do bills without an expression of gratitude.

Grateful people use words like ‘lucky,’ ‘fortunate’ and ‘blessed’ because they don’t focus on what they’re lacking—they make sure they see the good in what they have. Practice makes perfect so you can too live a happier, healthier life, just don’t forget the power of those two magic words: “thank you.”

– Dr. Robert Emmons is a research professor at University of California at Davis, an expert on the scientifically measured benefits of gratitude, and author of “Gratitude Works!: A 21-Day Program for Creating Emotional Prosperity.”